Emotional Throw-up, Life As A Sandwich And More:Tips On Putting Smiles In Your Days
Never Have Another Bad Day!
Your reaction/thoughts to the above:
• An audible “gasp”
• Impossible you think
• Tragic things happen over which I have no control
• Bad days make me human
• NOBODY has 365 good days a year
• It would take a miracle for ME to never have another bad day
And what if a miracle did happen and you never had another bad day in your whole
entire life? Now just how great would that feel? Just imagine how thrilling your life
could be each and every moment if you weren’t spending so much time “dealing”
with your bad days.
There’s no magic genie that is going to pop out of a lantern to grant your wish of
NO MORE BAD DAYS; the real magic lies in your own attitudes and behaviors. Your
response to the world is what creates your world, which means YOU can change
your world! Yes………..you really are that powerful. Sorry, no more cop outs for not
having great days every day. No more blaming somebody or something for how you
feel. The gig is up, the die has been cast, the frost is on the pumpkin, the party’s
over and it’s time for you to take charge of YOU!
Is TAKING CHARGE OF YOU an easy task? And the answer is:
• Yes
• No
• Maybe
Which one did you choose? RIGHT ANSWER! If you’ve decided it will be an easy task
… then it will. It’s also true that if you decided it will be a difficult task that is
also true for you. And if you answered maybe, then I’m quite sure you’ll be drawn to
the YES response with little effort. Whatever belief you hold in your heart and soul is
what will manifest in your life. So, if you believe, or at least dearly want to believe,
that you can actually have NO MORE BAD DAYS let’s GO!
EMOTIONAL THROW-UP
Okay, so you’re serious about pursuing a life filled with absolutely, awesome,
wonderful days. Before we can get into the nitty-gritty of what the heck is
happening to your days to make them horrid there are a couple of foundational
pieces upon which the other pieces rest. The first one is………oh no it’s really true
…………FEELINGS!!! If you don’t have a clue how you feel about anything you are not
going to be able to figure out what to do about anything. You may just know that
you have an “emotional throw-up” episode every now and then without having the
foggiest idea what really prompted the mess you made all over everybody around
you.
There’s this ridiculous belief alive and well in our society that in order to have a
great day any day we should never feel sadness or pain or any of the so called
negative emotions. That is really a whole bunch of baloney. Many of you are
probably spending a good share of your energy keeping down those “bad”
emotions. Yeah…they suck! Who in their right mind would want to feel THOSE? But
you know what? There are a ton of people out there who manage to show up every
day pretty darn happy. So they must have something going for themselves, as it’s
just not possible that they are immune to the garbage that life throws at everyone
else. But so many spend so much time, energy, and money trying to avoid what
ultimately can lead to tragic consequences. Addiction, over-eating, alcoholism,
over-shopping, etc. all arise from the misguided attempt to keep those blessed bad
feelings at bay. It just doesn’t work!
LIFE IS A SANDWICH
Life is very much like a sandwich; it’s full of all kinds of different layers. Imagine
that you started out with your own “life sandwich” neatly layered to assist you
throughout your life. The deal is that all of the sandwich must be eaten in your
lifetime; (sorry, there’s no choice here). Some of the layers in the sandwich are
absolutely delicious and some of them are about as vile as you can get. So what do
most do? Well of course, they eat as many delicious layers as possible and do
whatever it takes to never get into the yuck stuff. But remember the deal. You WILL
have to eat those yuck layers sooner or later and wouldn’t it be much better to eat
them as you go?
Nobody gets out of this lifetime without taking in those yuck layers of the sandwich,
without feelings of sadness, despair, loneliness and pain. They are part of life itself
and enable us to more deeply feel the joys, thrills and outright glee, which is also
part of our humanity. All of your feelings are valid and good in spite of the fact that
you may have learned somewhere in your history to stuff them, deal with them, get
rid of them. They are part of your true nature, all of them.
PUT ON THE BRAKES
So how to open up and get moving? Meditation, yoga, tai chi, journal writing and
many other activities that quiet the mind and body are great and may work for you.
But if that doesn’t seem to fit your style here are a few suggestions:
• Put on some tunes and dance in the house
• Talk to the cat or take the dog for a romp
• Watch the birds at your feeder
• Get into the garden and don’t wear gloves
• Lose yourself in a delicious creative activity
• Mountain bike on a super muddy trail
• Watch a DVD that you think is hilarious
What’s the silliest thing you could do that would make you smile?
How do you think you’d feel if you engaged in something outside of your norm that
you just loved to do?
What do you REALLY, REALLY want to do but are afraid of what others might say?
What made you happy as a youngster?
There as many ways of putting on your personal brakes as there are people in the
world. You know best what will work for you so now your only challenge is
CHOOSING to put a smile on your face, to feel what’s inside wanting to come out
… and let it!
As a life coach, Jude has coached hundreds of people around the globe. She does
not fix clients, she assists them in getting out of their own way whether they’re
dealing with difficult people, have finances in a mess or going through a major life
transition. Her clients love her challening, no-nonsense approach as well as her
often irreverent humor. She’s often called, “a breath of fresh air”. Her new and
humorous book on the major issues underlying what gets in the way of happy days
every day is due out later this year. Call Jude for a free consultation and/or a Smiles
Assessment.
